They said "falling in love is easy but staying in love is very special". Indeed. I stay in love with them who's not even alive anymore, just cause forever is not enough, especially when you know you are being loved.
I saw this picture last week, trapped in between "I'd like to say something too" or "I just leave as it is". And I choose to type now, hahah.
Picture Source: Instagram @_house.of.leaders_
I don't know yours, but this is what I see behind the picture of this couple:
- There's not too much "I" or "My" statement or any weaponized words,
- They don't search online dating when they're fighting. Imagine this era that online dating can accommodate not only single people but also not-available, married people etc, etc, just simply because they're fighting. Isn't it should be fixed instead of having fun that way? What an ego,
- No one shakes their head when something wrong happened,
- No one raises the tone when they're upset or walking away so they feel superior especially in front of the public,
- No one received quotes not to worry from another person who actually ruins every single freaking thing; the quotes, wisdom, bible quotes, trying to comfort and bullshiting in a slutty way, and still ignorance even though she knows that no one cares about what she sends? Pathetic whore are dangerous species in this universe, really,
- No one scrolling the Phone Books when they get bored sending selfie picture and safety wishes,
- No one stalking through Social Media from God knows how many accounts they have,
- No one takes a long damn spin ride alone when they're on quarantine,
- No one hides anything between two each other,
- No one seeking perfection from each other as there's nothing perfect in this world, for fuck sake, "0% Perfect, as whore said",
- No one put out the fire with oil when the fire broke out, someone would bring water instead,
- No one demand about physical perfection and happy soul all the time,
- No one playing the victim for every truth founded or slander or distort facts with the assumption,
- No one calling the wrong name many freaking times and again and again and again without an apology,
- No one will be taking for granted for the love that too much, the heart that too big and the forgiven that unlimited.
I am not the love expert to see more things about the picture and can share mine but if I may suggest to all of you that falling in love:
- Love can be painful sometimes but shouldn't be that painful until you sink down and you forget how to swim, so you need to make sure that the love you're fighting for is worth your energy, your time, your everything you have so you feel recharge for every time you feel like giving up, oh, and please don't love too much, don't care too much and do not trust too much,
- If you can't love someone in return, please do not hurt them, please please please. I know what it feels like to be loved, people who constantly giving and falling in love and staying in love is using their whole heart and not manipulative, not sugar coating, not trying to impress, it's all naturally coming from the heart even though it's against common sense sometimes. Just don't hurt her/ him :')
- Instead of remembering the good things all the time, have some time to remember all the trips they made to see you, the pages of the book they read to transport your love story, the music they unlock to so they could listen more, the day/ night time they look after you when you are unwell and nobody cares and for every time she/ he scored your heart even though it's not always easy for her/ him.
Life is shorter than our nails, cherish every moment you have because you don't know that she might crave every freaking Sunday with you, you are her Sundays. Fix the communication that broken, fixes the weaponized words that shouldn't be there, lower your tone, and improve your conversation instead. Start the discussion without waiting too long and being passive most of the time. Talk to her nicely even though you're mad, stop shaking your head, and assume you both are in competition because she's not a dumbass who interest in any competition anyway. Just fucking TALK and FIX it. Be brave, as brave as you are when you walking away or let her standing alone in public. Use that balls to apologize and just accept that it is okay if everything is not perfect and accept to just be grateful for what you currently have.
Blessed those people who love and be loved all their lives, I'm sending my love to you all to survive not only during the quarantine but every day in life.
"May we choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong." -Thomas S. Monson
